14 Days of Sexy
Sex. Vagina. Penis. Pussy. Dick. Fuck. Nasty. Foreplay. Suck. Lick. Freaky.
I had to throw out all the taboo words I know you were thinking when you saw the title of this post.
Get comfortable with it because those are a few of the words you'll see over the course of the next few days.
Now that we've cleared the room of any immature thoughts, let's delve into the vast world of human sexuality.
I'll be the one to tell you that I truly believe sexuality is a spectrum and you may not know what you like until you try it.
We are now in the year 2021 where sexual exploration and discovery are becoming widely accepted. Truly, it's a great thing to see for the simple fact that we're all wired to function in specific ways. The journey to finding what you love and enjoy can be daunting but, the reward of pleasure is always worth it.
I've decided to do 14 days of sexy to inspire you to li
ve a more sexually confident life. Over the days leading into Valentine's day, I'll be curating blog posts, videos, and various social media posts to spark your inner sexy.
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With that being said, let's jump into day 1:
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Unlocking Your Inner Sexy
I used to feel like this word was so cliche— like when any man used it in reference to me that it was nasty and derogatory in a sense. I've come to realize that this isn't necessarily the case. Sexy is defined as sexually suggestive or stimulating, generally attractive or interesting with its synonyms falling in the likes of erotic, desirable, and appealing. I mean, who wouldn't want to be those things?
I believe my disdain for the word stemmed more from feeling objectified. As a womxn (the x is intentionally placed there... we'll discuss later) I feel that from adolescence, the world collectively objectifies our bodies as a product or item versus its very human intention and purpose. It is because we are taught to conceal and confine our bodies from the petty catcalls of men and disgusting stares of pedophiles that when we blossom into womxnhood, being seen as salacious is flat out weird.
I'd argue that it is in a womxn's nature to embody the definition of sexy. It's the way God crafted us. Sexy is a state of mind that manifests into your physical being. Sexy is the embodiment of all things confidence. It is loving who you see in the mirror SO much that you walk like it, talk like and ACT like it. Being sexy is so much more than a word because it requires action. I am about to give you the keys to unlock your inner sexy. Are you ready?
🔑#1
-You NEED an Unfuckwithable Mentality
Repeat after me:
NO ONE CAN COMPARE TO ME.
NO ONE CAN OUT DO ME.
NO ONE CAN FUCK WITH ME.
Say it till you believe it! Adapting to this mindset may be difficult at first since we are conditioned to be objects of comparison but when you understand that everyone comes with their own set of unique capabilities, you become more appreciative and protective over what YOU have to offer. Focus on you and you only. You are in a lane of your own. Embrace it.
🔑#2
-A Body
You read that right– a body. The one you're in works just fine! You don't need killer curves, rock-solid abs, sleek calves, or rounded shoulders to be sexy. The body you're in is fully equipped to embrace the mindset of sexy. Try moving in ways that make you feel sexy. Whether that's tiptoeing around the kitchen in some lingerie or bending over to water your plants in a t-shirt (heyyyyy Ms. Parker), gestures and movements have a far more lasting effect. Try making different faces/posing in different ways that spark the feeling of sexiness. I feel my sexiest in an oversized tee and wild hair. There's no limit to this.
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🔑#3
-A Connection
Being sexy means you have some sort of connection to whom you're being sexy for. For me, I like being sexy for my DAMN self... I enjoy tooting my own horn. BUT– If you're in the business of entertaining a partner, there are a few ways to get sexy for your boo. First, find out what they like and see if you can find a common ground between your comfortability and their desire. If you're cool with venturing out of your comfort zone, go for it. Once you know what's appealing to your partner, incorporate it in ways that are inconspicuous. For example, if they love seeing you in red lingerie, slip it on and take a cute selfie but don't send it yet. Get dressed and wear it out and when you're at the table, send the photo then excuse yourself to go to the restroom. They'll be in for a pleasant surprise TWICE. You'll feel sexy beneath your regular clothes and your partner will already be turned on. Oh, did I mention this is GREAT foreplay too?
We'll get to that in a later post though. *smirks*
I hope these tips were helpful! Stay tuned for more... I have lots of good stuff lined up for you all
Let me know if I can assist you in any way.
-B
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